ScottSoCal

ScottSoCal, 19 godzin temu

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic

I don't mind waiting in line, but I refuse to use self-checkout. It's just an excuse for companies to not hire cashiers and make more profit.
You want me to check out my own purchases? Hire me, and give me a paycheck. At least give me a discount.

ScottSoCal, wczoraj

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

Definitely the dog. The dog walker might get a smile, after. But not unless the dog starts the conversation, by sniffing, wagging, or barking.

ScottSoCal, 2 dni temu

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

I don't. I apologize, if I think I was in the wrong or went too far, otherwise I leave it alone.

ScottSoCal, 2 dni temu

@CatMomDo @actuallyautistic

Yeah, I haven't had a good flying dream in years. I miss them.

ScottSoCal, 2 dni temu

@dramypsyd @actuallyautistic

First for me: What does this mean? How does this affect my life going forward?
The answer I've decided on: It means nothing, by itself, it's just another piece of information about me. And going forward it can mean as much or as little as I choose. It's all about what I want to do with it.

ScottSoCal, 2 dni temu

@autism101 @actuallyautistic

I "get" dogs and birds. Nothing they do is surprising, although some of what they do can be disappointing, or sad.

ScottSoCal, 2 dni temu

@payaldhar @cvwillegen @neuralex @actuallyautistic @jeanoappleseed

The first time I had a gout flare-up I didn't know what it was, so I just let it go for a couple of weeks, until I couldn't take it anymore. The doctor was surprised I waited, lectured me that I could have caused permanent join damage by waiting, then told me what to do if it ever happened again. A little pill I have to take. Fortunately it's only happened once after that. I researched what not to eat.

ScottSoCal, 3 dni temu

@kkffoo @actuallyautistic

What I'm getting from this is that you don't measure and prep all your ingredients before-hand, and arrange them artfully in individual little bowls on your kitchen counter. Good for you.

ScottSoCal, 4 dni temu

@actuallyautistic

He had a meltdown. First the car, then the charger, and now I'm pushing him to get the rate information. Why didn't I involve him in any of this?
Because he agonizes, and can't make a decision. He drags it out until forced into a decision by timing, and then he grumbles about it when he makes the decision I knew he was going to make all along. Let's skip all that and just get to the end.
Hubs is not happy. But he likes the car I bought him.

2/2

ScottSoCal, 3 dni temu

@jeanoappleseed @actuallyautistic

Surprising hubs is an astoundingly difficult thing to do, but this did. Despite me telling him we need to get him into an EV before me (my car gets 10+ higher mpg than his) and that I'd gotten pre-approved for financing with a 30 day deadline to buy, and that we were looking at cars for him. When I actually did it, he was surprised. I saw the car, the price, model, color all worked, and I did it. Much to his displeasure.

ScottSoCal, 3 dni temu

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic

I announced, he decided not to hear.

I'm in my element because this is about specifications and operation and mechanical/electronic things. He goes by subjective reviews and impressions.
[shrug] The math worked.

ScottSoCal, 3 dni temu

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic

He looks for subtext and hidden meaning (and what he'd do if our positions were reversed), and decides that's what I actually meant. He's done this for 31 years.
What I actually meant is what I said. If I'd meant something else, I'd have said something else. He has trouble with that concept.

ScottSoCal, 3 dni temu

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic

Hubs and I have a complicated relationship, for historical reasons. I think he anticipates me taking some decisive action (like divorce) that I don't plan to take. The car confuses and upsets him because if our positions were reversed, he wouldn't have done it, and he doesn't understand why I did.
I did it because it's the rational thing to do, it benefits both of us.

ScottSoCal, 3 dni temu

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic

Now you're trying to read subtext into what I'm saying. And you're doing it with what you already know is a small subset of all the data. I'm not sure how that's productive.

ScottSoCal, 4 dni temu

@loops @actuallyautistic

I ride grocery carts like a push scooter. Drives hubs nuts, I don't care - it's fun.

ScottSoCal, 4 dni temu

@ashleyspencer @actuallyautistic

I don't know about absorb what's in the music, but those times I can't figure out what I'm feeling, the music I listen to tells me a lot.

ScottSoCal, 4 dni temu

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

Hardcover and paperback get separate shelves, and in descending order of size/thickness.

ScottSoCal, 4 dni temu

@ketmorco @simid @clouddweller @actuallyautistic @mellowfish @autism101

98.6 is typical, but people have different baselines. I run about a degree lower than that.

ScottSoCal, 5 dni temu

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

The smart-ass living in my head wants me to reply:
"By plotting and achieving revenge"

But that would be rude.

ScottSoCal, 7 dni temu

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

Put my head down, grit my teeth, and push through it.

ScottSoCal, 5 dni temu

@seven @theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

My dreams are usually surreal, but incredibly vivid while I'm having them, and they can definitely affect my emotional state when I wake up.

ScottSoCal, 7 dni temu

@nellie_m @chin @actuallyautistic

I do that at work in meetings. They'll start wandering off the topic - or worse, the whole meeting could have been an email - and I have no problem reining it back in.
A customer sent an email with questions about a current contract. The Systems Engineer sent out a meeting invite for next week, to "get on the same page", then forwarded us the email. It was basic stuff, just needed answers. I answered, customer is happy. SE canceled the meeting.
Winning!

ScottSoCal, 7 dni temu

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

I can't feel your love for the sinner when all you do is throw your hatred for the sin in my face.

And "sin"? Really? WTF is that, anyway? Your imaginary friend gets his panties bunched because he doesn't like what I do with another consenting adult?

ScottSoCal, 8 dni temu

@CarolynStirling @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

I gave a training at least once a month, sometimes up to 4 times a month, in front of groups of up to 30 people at a time. I did that for 17 years. I developed a "trainer" persona for it, and it's been useful in other situations, too.

ScottSoCal, 7 dni temu

@Dingsextrem @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

"i am Jewish!" - "Oh, you don't seem Jewish, you come across well"
"i am Black!" - "Oh, you don't seem Black, you come across well"
"i am an atheist!" - "Oh, you don't seem like an atheist, you come across well"

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

The timing on your post is funny, because while you were writing it, I was perched like a lawn gnome in front of someone's office door, talking about parrots.

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@primitivist @VeeRat @AutisticAdam @actuallyautistic

I have a smart watch, with a timer function. A load of wash is 50 minutes, a load in the dryer is 70 minutes. If I don't set the timer, I'll completely forget that I was doing laundry.

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@malcircuit @actuallyautistic

I was lucky, in my case it turned out to be job stress. Getting a new job solved that nicely.

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@malcircuit @actuallyautistic

What interests you, and what are your strengths? Not asking to ask, asking to have you ask yourself.
I'm a lifelong sci-fi geek, and having things orderly and logical appeals to me. I stumbled into a job in aerospace, and it's perfect for me. Stuff I've held in my hands is out in space, doing science. The path to get it there is rigidly controlled and fully documented. It appeals to me on every level.

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@malcircuit @actuallyautistic

If you ever decide to go in that direction, do some extra study in electronics at cryogenic temperatures (resistors and capacitors get funky when things get really cold) and how they respond to high radiation environments. In the radiation belts around planetary bodies, it's like a nuclear war zone. You'll have a leg up on the competition.

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@f1337 @actuallyautistic

OK, I can see that. I'm not 100% sure this is me - although I tick most of the boxes on the "signs of" checklists. And thinking about this has made a lot of the last 50+ years make sense, where it didn't before. When I first heard of Asperger Syndrome, I wondered. Reading here, I find there are names for things about me (hyperlexia) that I didn't have before.
I'm 99% sure. I think 99% might be enough. Now I'm dealing with the self-image adjustment.

ScottSoCal, 8 dni temu

@jens @Vincarsi @nellie_m @devxvda @Cleopatra @sentient_water @actuallyautistic @joshsusser

I've never understood that sentiment among scientists. Emotions are primal, they evolved long before higher brain function. Of course animals can feel fear and joy and anger and pleasure and grief.
And pain is even more primal, it's a basic survival mechanism.

ScottSoCal, 8 dni temu

@nellie_m @jens @Vincarsi @devxvda @Cleopatra @sentient_water @actuallyautistic @joshsusser

I absolutely support this. I don't believe consciousness is a binary on/off thing, there are many degrees of it.

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@mepurfield @Laniebird91 @actuallyautistic

For me, dates and numbers are easy, and automatic. Names? Faces? They're a mystery.

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@mepurfield @Laniebird91 @actuallyautistic

Badly. There are people I've had to be introduced to every time I've seen them. I have to spend a significant chunk (hours) of time with someone before they "stick" in my memory.
At work, everyone is FNG until I've been in a few meetings with them.

ScottSoCal, 9 dni temu

@stephenczetty @squipo @Arletta @eonity @actuallyautistic

If that worked for you, you can also get an alarm clock that will slowly turn on a bright light to wake you up. I tried one and found that it just made me roll over, so I wasn't facing the light, and took it a step further - wired all the lights in my bedroom to turn on (No escape! Mwahahaha!) and it's made a huge difference for me.

ScottSoCal, 11 dni temu

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic

"Then there's a lot of prejudice. To me, it seems a bit exaggerated."

I've watched it since the beginning, and I'd say if they're not accurate on the prejudice, they're down-playing it. I think IRL it would be much worse than what they've shown.

ScottSoCal, 11 dni temu

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic

I work in a highly technical field, and I frequently joke that there are more PhDs per square foot at my company than in a hospital. My situation would be very similar.

ScottSoCal, 11 dni temu

@Sci_Fi_FanGirl @actuallyautistic

It's not about the label, it's about the behavior. They know I'm a pain in the ass to work with. They know I don't respect titles, position, or salary. They know I won't hesitate to tell them they're wrong, when they are.
I'm "not a team player", and I don't "communicate effectively". Just look at any of my performance reviews. But I do get the job done, well enough that I've out-lasted just about everyone who had a real problem with me.

ScottSoCal, 12 dni temu

@theautisticcoach @Uniflame @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

I correspond to Level 1 on that, but my "support" is rigid routine. I've worked out systems that ensure everything is done by following a script. If I get interrupted or things happen out of order, it all falls apart.

ScottSoCal, 11 dni temu

@theautisticcoach @actuallyautistic @actuallyautistics

OK, I'd never heard of hyperlexia, but yeah, that's me. I was reading more than a year before kindergarten, usually the newspaper, because we didn't have a lot of books in my house.